A message from Joyce: If you have not already done so, please read the previous two posts before this one.
...While Sarah and I were at horse riding Saturday morning, this phone call came in. I've left the woman's name in only because she says it so fast you can't make it out. She left me a phone number which I immediately did a reverse phone look up at www. whitepages.com and found it is registered as a cell phone number. Not much help there, so I had to do a little detective work to actually come up with the spelling.
She indicates she will be calling the officials at Matt's school district on Monday. Truthfully, I do not think they will get involved as this was not a school matter. The incident happened on the grounds of another school district who was playing another school team. If she doesn't get satisfaction from our school, she may file assault charges with the police department in the jurisdiction where the stadium is located. We will have to wait and see.
In the meantime, Matt printed out for me a dialogue that occurred under a picture on Facebook last week between Gus and RG. Moms and Dads who are reading this. Listen up!!! Do your kids have Facebook accounts? Do you monitor them? I mean really monitor them??? What I read today literally made me nauseous. I know I have probably been living in a pollyanna bubble, but what this boy was writing to this 12 year old girl is FRIGHTENING. I have rarely read such vile, filthy, s*e*xually degrading threats including blatant racial references. I have no doubt this is what started the meltdown with Gus and RG.
For the first time since Friday night, I realize that the "R" word is really only a small part of the bigger picture. It's what set Matt off but when I read the words that Gus had sent to RG, I was furious. I know now what cyberbullying looks like. Ultimately, what would I like to see come out of this? I hope some further sensitivity training on the "R" word and cyberbullying. I'd like to see Gus acknowledge that his words hurt.
I believe Matt has learned from this. We have talked at great length about what he should do differently next time. Although, we have talked about the "R" word many times before. I guess in the heat of the moment, when the word "retard" is used in an ugly degrading way, role playing and discussions can loose their effectiveness.
On a personal level, John had Matt at the office all day filing. That in itself is punishment, even for me:) He has lost his Facebook, My Space and cell phone. He won't be seeing RG anytime soon. Additional football games will have to wait until next year. As for repercussions at school or charges with the legal authorities? I'll keep you posted.